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I am not going back and individually tagging all my entries.
I am also not putting an Adult Content flag on my whole journal - since as a mom I think it is the job of a child's parents to moderate what their kid is exposed to. While reporting a post to LJAbuse might be quicker and easier, I think THAT just encourages the whole excessive censorship in the name of The Children. So what I ask is:

If there is a post that you come across that you feel needs to be flagged, please comment here (screened) and I will take it under consideration.
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I am not going back and individually tagging all my entries.
I am also not putting an Adult Content flag on my whole journal - since as a mom I think it is the job of a child's parents to moderate what their kid is exposed to. While reporting a post to LJAbuse might be quicker and easier, I think THAT just encourages the whole excessive censorship in the name of The Children. So what I ask is:

If there is a post that you come across that you feel needs to be flagged, please comment here (screened) and I will take it under consideration.
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What the fuck is wrong with us?
By Josh Coslar
Original at https://www.facebook.com/notes/josh-coslar/what-the-fuck-is-wrong-with-us/10152105519430527

I wrote this a while back and decided not to post it. Something happened today, and now I feel compelled to share it. The langauge is strong, so my younger cousins and more conservative aunts, uncles, and grandparents may want to skip this. Please share this, with whoever will read it. Thank you for your time and your attention.

I have a question for the men of the world. What the fuck is wrong with us? Wait a moment before you respond; please allow me to specify. Recently a female friend of mine- not a romantic friend, but someone I know fairly well- posted a picture of herself on Facebook. Those of you familiar with the way the internet seems to work probably know where this is going. She did look incredibly attractive in the photograph, but she was clothed and the picture in question was in no way overtly provocative. A man began commenting on the picture, essentially propositioning my friend over the internet. It was, to put it in colloquial terminology, pretty damn creepy. I sent my friend a message, asking her who the man in question was and if she was aware of his comments. She shrugged it off. “Some guy. Guys post creepy comments all the time.”

Hold the fucking the phone. I thought “There’s no way in hell that this is normal.”. This couldn’t be normal. This had to be one or two incidents perpetrated by a small minority of individuals. So I asked around. I talked to female friends, family members, and even a couple of exes. Sure enough, not only is this behavior common online, it’s common in everyday life. It’s expected. The average woman expects to be propositioned, hit on, and approached in an unwanted manner. I listened to dozens of stories about people I care about being subjected to borderline sexual assault. Actually, scratch that. It’s not fucking borderline. If you interrupt a person’s existence with unwanted and unwarranted advances that are offensive and even frightening, you have assaulted them. Not physically- though one often leads to another- but you have made the implication that you are worth more than they are and that they owe you something because of it.

I heard stories about women on busses and trains, at work, in fast food places, at grocery stores, walking down the goddamned street. Women minding their own business who were approached by men who made advances, and when the women tried to ignore, defuse, or walk away from the situation they were insulted. Ridiculed. Called “bitch”, “stuck up cunt”, and worse. These men seem to feel that they have the right to insert themselves into someone’s life, and then they expect women to engage in conversation, flirtation, and other pursuits with them. Then some other things dawned on me. I walk women to their car, or their home, or wherever they’re going if it’s dark out. Partially due to common courtesy, and partially for safety. It’s the safety part that really sunk in. See, the same behavior and thought process that leads to this verbal assault eventually leads to physical assault. I thought that this misogynistic mindset was uncommon. Now I realize it’s so fucking common that we don’t even recognize it. If a woman goes somewhere after dark by herself- she worries for her well being. It might be a little, it might be a lot, but she worries. Women expect- and even shrug off- verbal sexual assault. They view it as something that happens. They don’t talk about it with men, just other women. I can’t fucking blame them.

Back to my question. Men, what the fuck is wrong with us? What does it say about our society that a majority of men still think they have some sexual superiority over women? I can see the wheels turning, the counter arguments being cranked out. “It’s just few assholes, most of us are polite and respectful.” Bullshit. If it were a minority of us, then it would be a minority of women that experience it. But it’s not. One third of women in America have been raped. Pretty much every woman on the planet is rudely and gruffly approached once a week, unless they actively take steps to avoid it. You shouldn’t have to actively avoid assault. Men, just stop fucking assaulting women. Problem solved. Women are our equals. They are human beings, and deserve as much respect as any man. The fact that ours dangles and produces a different hormone does not make us superior. Men, more often than not, are physically stronger than women. This does not make us superior to them. It makes us responsible for what we do with that strength. Open doors, pull out chairs, and walk with them in the dark. I weep that is is necessary to make sure a woman gets safely to her destination without being raped, but it is. Men, until every single woman can say that they feel safe going about their lives, that they never have to worry about unwanted advances, or rape, or being treated as inferiors simply because they’re not male- until those concerns no longer exist, the question still stands. What the fuck is wrong with us?
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‎Samantha Morse [livejournal.com profile] wench230 is in a horrible financial situation right now. For those that don't know, Samantha was born with Spina Bifida. The fact that she was able to live on her own, work, and live a somewhat normal life up until the last handful of years is unusual, and she has gone through multiple surgeries to make it this long.

However her body has caught up with her and she is no longer able to work, and has eaten up her savings despite moving to a lower cost area. She has applied for every manner of public assistance, and while she has been approved for some small amount but some take over a year to even get a court date.

She is regularly unable to pay for her medication which leaves her in unbearable pain. No one should have to live like this. I know our community won't stand for it.

After discussing fundraising opportunities it occurred to me that I could hold this eparty and give 20% of all purchases made to help fund her medication needs.

PLEASE purchase something if you can.
PLEASE pass this on even if you can't purchase anything.
Please contact me if you have other ideas as to how to help.

http://shop.avon.com/shop/default_rep.asp?c=repPWP&otc=201213&repid=13262658&setlang=1&couponCode=HELPWENCH230&s=eParty
Please spread this link instead - it explains everything on it! http://kidd.avonrepresentative.com/eparty/view.php?rep_spnsr_evnt_id=315892

Use the code "helpwench230" to make sure your purchase gets counted. If you place your order, and forget to use the code, contact me and I will apply it so she can get her $.

Thank you,
Michele Kidd
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I am very seriously considering going back to work at some point. However I STILL have no idea what I want to do when I grow up.

So here it is: When you look at me what profession do you think I should be in? When you met me, as you got to know me. When you think in your head about the job I fit in, where would you imagine me?

Answers are screened, and anonymous posting is on for this post. Please be honest!
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Sharing for [livejournal.com profile] madmage who never asks for stuff like this, so I will share it far and wide. Please help if you can or at least spread the word.

ETA: It would be totally useful if I posted the link huh? *head desk* http://t.co/QM0aikN
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Two years ago I got together a fallback list of things to do with the kids when they cry boredom. Since they have grown, and resources have changed I am updating the list. There are surprisingly little changes to be made, but always room to grow, so add your suggestions in the comments!

1. Lightsabers
2. Freeze tag
3. Board games
4. Soccer
5. Movie
6. Cook something
7. Pillow fort
8. Finger painting
9. Legos
10. Listen to music
11. Nerf wars
12. Wii
13. Scooters
14. Bikes
15. Learn about birds
16. Read books
17. Rocket blaster
18. Bowling
19. Garden
20. Puzzles
21. Dinosaur toys
22. Pool
23. Remote control cars/dino/etc.
24. Camping
25. Fireworks (seeing not playing with)
26. Zoo (go to Bronx Zoo on a Wed. when there is free admission or perhaps the Bergen Cty Zoological Society)
27. Baseball
28. Picnic
29. Hopscotch
30. Glider
31. Building blocks
32. Dress up
33. Library
34. Parks
35. Make ice cream
36. Action figures
37. Make t-shirts
38. Card games
39. Real tea party
40. Play music
41. Rock tumbler
42. Play with balls
43. Volcano
44. Watch a local Baseball game
45. Play Doh/clay
46. Make puppets
47. Painting
48. Crafts

(x-posted to my blog)
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Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] kythryne at internet powers, activate!
Okay, people. I need you to take this viral, and fast.

We know someone in upstate New York who needs a good custody lawyer ASAP. I'm not at liberty to go into details publicly, but this woman is very afraid that her abusive boyfriend is going to get sole custody of her young child.  She's presently being represented by a court-assigned lawyer who doesn't seem to care about the case, and she has very few resources left at this point. Her next hearing is on Thursday.

If you know a good lawyer in New York State who might be willing to take this case for a low fee or pro bono, or at least offer her advice or support, please let me know. If you don't know anyone, please repost this far and wide. As a mother and an abuse survivor, it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach to contemplate a child being left in the hands of an abuser.

I can be reached at kythryne@gmail.com if you have any leads or want to help.

The internet can work miracles. Let's go.

Free!

Apr. 30th, 2011 04:07 pm
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So. Spring cleaning. Stuff in need of good homes. First come first serve. All free but you must come get. Whatever is not claimed will go to freecycle. List to be updated as I find more stuff, so check back.

2 Roombas - Both need new batteries. Both worked okay last time I had batteries that held a charge.

Playstation 2 with some games Josh... this was yours, do you want it back or should I pass it along?

Little Green Clean Machine Sprayer hose seems clogged, but the motors work. Someone handier than me could likely fix it.

Calendar

Nov. 11th, 2010 10:51 am
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Trying to get together my calendar(s) for the next year. If you need me
for a specific date please tell me now, even if you already did. (x-posted everywhere)

*EDIT- Comments screened in case it is a private sort of thing.

Calendar

Nov. 11th, 2010 10:51 am
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Trying to get together my calendar(s) for the next year. If you need me
for a specific date please tell me now, even if you already did. (x-posted everywhere)

*EDIT- Comments screened in case it is a private sort of thing.
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Others have said it better than I will...

If you feel the need to ever, EVER cross post stuff to FB from my journal, just go ahead and unfriend me now. I have separate accounts for a reason thank you.
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Others have said it better than I will...

If you feel the need to ever, EVER cross post stuff to FB from my journal, just go ahead and unfriend me now. I have separate accounts for a reason thank you.
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This week is [livejournal.com profile] cassiusdrow's birthday, and if I was a good wife I would have posted it with lots of warning and stuff. But I didn't. Oh well.
This week we are going to watch Photobucket AKA whatever Joe picks that night :D It is his birthday after all!

Some weeks I will cook, some will be takeout. This one will be Thai! If you don't like what I am planning you can always brown bag it.

Dinner at 7pm. Movie at 8pm.

If you are coming RSVP just so we do not start without you.

(Movie nights are every Friday night at our home)
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This week is [livejournal.com profile] cassiusdrow's birthday, and if I was a good wife I would have posted it with lots of warning and stuff. But I didn't. Oh well.
This week we are going to watch Photobucket AKA whatever Joe picks that night :D It is his birthday after all!

Some weeks I will cook, some will be takeout. This one will be Thai! If you don't like what I am planning you can always brown bag it.

Dinner at 7pm. Movie at 8pm.

If you are coming RSVP just so we do not start without you.

(Movie nights are every Friday night at our home)
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A long time ago, in a living room far far away...

No wait. It was this living room. And it was not all that long ago really.

...there was a movie night every Friday night.

I miss the heck out of it, and all of you. So I am bringing it back. So all you people looking for an official invitation this is it.

This week we are going to watch Up

Some weeks I will cook, some will be takeout. This one... yeah I have not decided yet. Check back. But if you don't like what I am planning you can always brown bag it.

Dinner at 7pm. Movie at 8pm.

If you are coming RSVP just so we wont start without you.
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A long time ago, in a living room far far away...

No wait. It was this living room. And it was not all that long ago really.

...there was a movie night every Friday night.

I miss the heck out of it, and all of you. So I am bringing it back. So all you people looking for an official invitation this is it.

This week we are going to watch Up

Some weeks I will cook, some will be takeout. This one... yeah I have not decided yet. Check back. But if you don't like what I am planning you can always brown bag it.

Dinner at 7pm. Movie at 8pm.

If you are coming RSVP just so we wont start without you.
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Dear cats,

I understand that if, despite our efforts as your caretakers, you should run out of water in the middle of the night (whether it be because of an insufficient amount, or your need to fill up like a camel so you can decimate your cat-box), it is reasonable, even if unappreciated that you attempt to drink from a water glass left out. I am even willing to forgive the broken glass that resulted from this attempt, and that you woke both adults up with the sound. Okay, fine, fair enough.

What I DO NOT understand is why, for the love of Bast, after we cleaned the mess up, and gave you fresh filtered water, which you drank heavily of, that you were found trying to drink out of my glass again!

Perhaps it is my failing as a two leg, to understand. Perhaps you have gotten so old to forget that you are no longer thirsty. Perhaps you just like pissing me off. Any which way, please knock if the F off.

No love,
Me
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Dear cats,

I understand that if, despite our efforts as your caretakers, you should run out of water in the middle of the night (whether it be because of an insufficient amount, or your need to fill up like a camel so you can decimate your cat-box), it is reasonable, even if unappreciated that you attempt to drink from a water glass left out. I am even willing to forgive the broken glass that resulted from this attempt, and that you woke both adults up with the sound. Okay, fine, fair enough.

What I DO NOT understand is why, for the love of Bast, after we cleaned the mess up, and gave you fresh filtered water, which you drank heavily of, that you were found trying to drink out of my glass again!

Perhaps it is my failing as a two leg, to understand. Perhaps you have gotten so old to forget that you are no longer thirsty. Perhaps you just like pissing me off. Any which way, please knock if the F off.

No love,
Me
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I often get asked why I have my username. Who is ana and why is she mad? But it is really Anathema D and they won't let me capitalize, so that is that. Except it is not. Because why Anathema D? And that is because of Anathema Device from Good Omens: The Nice and Accurate Prophecies of Agnes Nutter, Witch which really, if you have not read, you should stop doing this, and everything else and get to it!

But it is even more than that. The word, Anathema... it intrigues me. And someone I know (*waves*) got it as a vocabulary word, and got me to thinking, which, considering I should be doing Other Things is very much in the way. And so the best way to get it out of the way is to post. And I feel like I have made posts like this before, but it needs out right now.


My favorite modern definition is "One who is despised" but Dictionary.com has a bunch of other good ones. And on Podictionary he gets into some of the etymology. But if you look into it, anathema has such interesting roots. Of being something set apart as an offering to god(s). And somewhere along the line, it became tainted and changed. So yeah, I like it.

It is simply, one of my favorite words.

Do you have any?

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